Now I would just like to make a point about certain phrases that people who have very little self confidence use in every day life without even realising they’re doing it. People can say I’m talkin nonsense, and I usually am in many people’s eyes but why not just have a think about whether you believe I’m right or not.
PHRASE 1:
If you want
This is a phrase used by so many self conscious people in every day life as a way of shifting power back to themselves in a situation where the person saying it needs to know there is a want for them. For example, texting come down if you want means that the self-conscious person wants the person texted to come down but wants them to say that they want to come down. This makes the texter feel wanted and more important than anything else.
PHRASE 2:
I Don’t Care
They do care, trying to remain dignified in defeat but beating themselves up inside.
PHRASE 3:
I Don’t Really Wanna Talk About It
They do really wanna talk about it but want it to look like they’re not wallowing in self pity. That way if you find out it looks like you’ve had to dig deep, even though it’s blatantly obvious they haven’t.
PHRASE 4;
Probably
I probably will see you again or probably will come down to see you etc. Stops the person committing in an attempt to make the receiving person believe they could have something better to do besides you.
PHRASE 5:
We’ll see
Similar to phrase 4 in that the person wants you to believe there may be something better to do than spend time with you.
More to come, just my thoughts for today!
tom